Libby Doe

I don’t want to bore you with my story, but I must tell you enough of it in order for this book to have its maximum effect. You see, I’m not the same woman I used to be. Most of this book is written because God slapped me around continuously and gave me a second chance at my marriage. What do I mean by that?

Well, I was destroying my Strong Christian Man husband. Literally destroying him. I blamed everything on him, but truly, everything was my fault. And instead of my husband conquering the enemy, obliterating evil, and advancing God’s Kingdom, all of his energy was wasted on me. Just fighting my negative energy all the time. I was contentious and incompetent and all I did with my time was find new things to be pitiful about and to fight my husband about.

Then one day I got a revelation! Isn’t that how the story always goes? Okay, I guess that’s not entirely true. I didn’t get a revelation “one day.” It was more of a journey. I went on a journey, and over a period of time, I slowly, piece by piece, began to recognize the errors of my way. It was here a little, there a little. Precept upon precept, line upon line (Isaiah 28:10). And ultimately, I could see it all clearly.

And when I did, you could say I had a complete breakdown. I guess psychologists call it a nervous breakdown. But for me it was just an episode of emotional distress where I had to come to a place of total repentance recognizing the irreversible damage I had done to my husband, my children, my family, and ultimately, to the Kingdom of God. It was an ugly realization. And it was an awful feeling, like one where I felt the power of evil in a physical form, that I never want to experience again! And the worst part was, that this evil was not something that was attacking me (though it felt like it) but it was something that was me. I was the one that had to repent. I was the one that had to change.

And so I did! And the results have been nothing short of miraculous. I guess I could say that I never had any concept of the true power and influence of one woman. But now I know. Now I get it.

Now, I did not come to this place on my own or all of the sudden. There were many people, resources, and moments that led up to it. My hope and prayer is that this book will be a sufficient resource for you to be able to get it done ALL AT ONCE. In other words, I hope you don’t have to take a 10 year journey, have multiple experiences, read many books, and counsel with dozens of people, just to overcome. I hope and pray that you can read this book and that it will be sufficient. Because I will include everything I have learned in this single resource for you!

For what it’s worth, some of the major resources that helped me along the way were:
The following 3 books:

• The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. This was and is a very good book. It’s a secular book and is mostly only focused on good, traditional values, and helping weak women who are tarnished by modern, western immorality and bad thinking, to become more happy, peaceful, wives. It’s not a perfect book, but it is highly recommended!
• Marriage to a Difficult Man (The Uncommon Union of Jonathan and Sarah Edwards). This book was a real eye opener! It clearly shows the power and influence of a Biblical Strong Man (i.e. Jonathan Edwards) and how God uses Strong Men who are at once, strong and powerful, yet deeply flawed. This book clearly demonstrates that ultimately, it is the virtue of a virtuous wife (or the hindrance of a weak wife) who either hinders her man from becoming the Strong Man God called him to be, or blesses him as a godly and supportive wife, who raises remarkable children through her femininity, godliness, and grace.
• Created to be His Helpmeet by Debi Pearl. This is an excellent book, that I believe every married christian woman should read. Actually, every Christian teenage girl should read it. It is one of the best books on Christian living for women ever written. However, as excellent as this book is, it only categorizes men into three groups and doesn’t address the specific and unique needs of Strong Christian Men.

I was also fortunate to have a couple of mentors both inside and outside of my church. But to help to maintain privacy and to also make the flow of my writing more even and simple, I will refer to these mentors as a single woman, Sister Naomi.

So this all brings me back to why this book had to be written. To be blunt and honest with you, this book had to be written because I was a very weak and negative woman that almost killed my Strong Christian Man. Not killed him in a literal or spiritual sense, but I absorbed all of his bandwidth. I killed his potential, his calling, and his effectiveness. The thing about a Strong Man is that he is more driven with purpose than the average man. He is a leader. He will always have a special and unique mission or mission(s) beyond that of a typical man. And usually it is a high calling that God has given him to accomplish. And a Strong Man will be driven to accomplish it, and he usually will accomplish it dutifully and powerfully. That is, unless, his wife can kill him. Or better stated, she can kill his ability to fulfill his calling. Because only one person has the power to stop a strong man, and that is his wife. And that was me. I was killing and stopping my husband from fulfilling his life’s calling(s) and I never realized it.

God was merciful to me and showed me the error of my way, and now I want to share this wisdom with the rest of the world. And I also believe God wants me to share it with you, as well.

THE ULTIMATE AND FINAL IMPETUS

The final impetus that drove me to write this book, after first consulting with my husband and getting his advice, wisdom, direction, and permission, was the COVID pandemic. My husband fought valiantly against the tyranny during that time, as did many others, but overall, the first thing that came to mind when this worldwide tyranny came down on us all was: where are all the Strong Men?

I have never seen such a universal display of weakness amongst so-called leadership, particularly in the church, and generally amongst men as a whole.

I couldn’t believe it! I still can’t believe it. History will never be able to properly record just how pathetic and pitiful the response of men and male leadership was during the time of COVID tyranny. Think about it, how many men do you personally know, that you could say acted like genuine Christian leaders and Strong Men during that time? How many men do you personally know stood up to the mask mandates, to police tyranny, political tyranny, and medical tyranny?

On the contrary, it was on the order of 99% or more of Christian churches followed suit with all the tyranny and obeyed whatever the government told them to do. Churches closed their doors and went online. Weak and pathetic Pastors feared a virus more than they feared God. I could go on and on, but I don’t have to. You remember. We all lived through this together!

And that’s when it hit me: we women, as feminists in the church, have so neutered our Strong Men, that we no longer have leaders to lead us into the promised land. And if we don’t fix this problem now, we have essentially no hope. It was then that I realized that the problem is not that Strong Men don’t exist (because it is God Himself who calls them, and God will not leave this world without his own divinely called leadership), rather, it is the fact that Strong Men’s weaknesses have been exploited and thereby have prevented Strong Men from “doing exploits” (Daniel 11:28) and leading us out of tyranny.

We women who are married to these Strong Men are that weakness. We are the problem. And if we can fix this problem so that Strong Christian Men are once again FREE to lead and accomplish their God-given missions, ministries, and “exploits,” then the future bears nothing BUT HOPE for both the church and for all mankind!