Libby Doe

Guess what? You are a beautiful woman and I know that for a fact. And no, I am not trying to play one of these silly or ridiculous “feel better about yourself” and “improve your self-esteem” psycho-babble games with you. I am talking FOR REAL. You are not only beautiful, but some of you are drop-dead gorgeous, and undoubtedly some of you are so beautiful you could be models. And at the very least, you are usually the most beautiful woman in any room you walk into and you have been beautiful for the vast majority of your life.

How do I know this? Because you are married to a Strong Man and Strong Men always marry beautiful women. It’s a fact. You see, by definition, a Strong Man sees life as a series of accomplishments that he must conquer one-by-one until the end of his life. And marriage is just another achievement in his list of goals that he must check off his list.

Now, don’t take offense to that. It doesn’t mean it’s not important to him. On the contrary, a Strong Christian Man typically sees his family as the most important thing in his life. But, it does mean that he sees it as a goal or achievement and not as a “rite of passage” or an important decision to think through.

In other words, when a Strong Man decides to get married, he chooses a wife based on the singular factor that is the most meaningless and empty factor imaginable: physical beauty.

A beautiful woman is the Strong Man’s kryptonite and I’ll prove it in just a second. But first, I want you to consider what the purpose of marriage actually is. The purpose of marriage is not to be happy or to spend the rest of your life with the one person that you love more than anybody. That’s the false message of Hollywood and of the failed French ideology of romanticism. But a biblical marriage is all about progeny (Malachi 2:15). It is about two people coming together in a committed relationship to establish a family that worships God and passes their faith on to their children and their children’s children. It’s family and continuance, not just happiness. Happiness is the consequence of a good marriage but not the goal of it. Just like love and intimacy are the consequences of a good relationship and not the reason for it. To a strong man, the purpose of marriage is his name. His reputation (Proverbs 22:1). His legacy (Ecclesiastes 7:1).

And the Bible tells us upfront that this was God’s initial purpose. In fact, God said the following about marriage, Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” And then in Genesis 2:24 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” So there it is. That was God establishing the institution of marriage. Then, the very first thing we see God tell mankind to do, now that the institution of marriage was established, was to go have sex and make babies. This is how he said it: Genesis 1:27-28 "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

Now notice what God said the purpose of a wife was: Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (KJV) A woman is supposed to help a man to take dominion over the earth and specifically, raise his children.

In practice, the masculine/feminine dynamic has meant that men provide and protect the family while the wife takes care of the domestic duties. Weaker men need their wives to do a whole slew of things and fill a lot of holes in his life that he is incapable of doing so himself. The wife will need to be able to cook, clean, sew, wash, iron, fold the laundry, keep the house clean, teach the children, handle the finances, run the errands, etc. But a strong man doesn’t need any of that. He can either do it all on his own, or hire it all done (strong men typically have more financial resources than “average” men). This doesn’t mean that the wife of a strong man shouldn’t do those things, simply that he does not need those things.

Additionally, by his nature, a Strong Man doesn’t typically think about the “help” he needs to get things done or reach his goals. A Strong Man is used to getting things done himself or leading others to get things done. So when it comes time to choosing a spouse, he simply does not look for a woman who is talented, skillful, or inclined to excel at domestic duties. And unfortunately, even Strong Christian Men don’t look for a woman who is inherently spiritual or intensely dedicated to the worship of God or obedience to the Bible. No. Unfortunately not.

A Strong Man only looks for one thing: physical beauty. Why? Well, I could write an entire book about what I believe to be the psychology behind this impetus, but in the end the reality is that a strong man sees a beautiful woman as a challenge that he must conquer. Physical beauty, as much as modern women hate this to be true, is what makes a woman stand out amongst her peers. It is what, at once and in an instant, makes her more valuable in the marketplace.

Think about it this way: strong men don’t buy cheap sedans. They don’t buy Toyota Corollas or Honda Civics or a Volkswagen Jetta. If your husband is a true Strong Man, he undoubtedly drives a car that is not practical or demonstrably useful like a van or an SUV or a pickup truck. No, he has a two door sports car with little to no trunk space, and a giant engine that is loud and obnoxious, and that looks gorgeous and makes him look and feel “cool.” Or he has a luxury car like a Mercedes, BMW, or Cadillac. Strong men pick that which is beautiful instead of that which is useful.

Generally speaking, Strong Men don’t typically buy trucks because trucks are actually useful and they have genuine utility. But a Strong Man just wants something that looks good. So, if you have a Strong Man and he does actually drive a truck, I’d be willing to bet it is a monster truck or it is something that is souped up and customized with giant tires, specialized rims, upgraded audio, a supercharged engine, or other useless features that he has to have on it because it is “cool.”

Well guess what, my lovely lady, you are the same thing. Regardless of how skillful, talented, intelligent, and useful you may or may not be, your husband chose you because you were beautiful. Because you make him look “cool” and that makes him feel good. You make him look successful because you are beautiful. You can hate that fact if you want, but it is still a fact and that is how I know that you are beautiful without having met you.

If you are not a legitimately and objectively attractive woman, I would venture to say that your husband probably isn’t an actual Strong Man and you need to go back and doublecheck the list in chapter one to make sure that you properly checked off EVERY SINGLE BOX in the Strong Man list.

So, while a Strong Man can appreciate love and romance and all of that, the truth is that he just wanted a beautiful woman at his side because in his subconscious mind, the sex will be better, and having a gorgeous wife demonstrates his ability to conquer. In other words, he bought a Ferrari. He got the best the marketplace had to offer.

Now the fact that your husband chose you simply because he found you to be physically attractive and quite frankly, the most beautiful woman available to him, comes with its own set of unique consequences that we will delve into for the remainder of this book.

But first let me just give you a couple of Biblical examples to examine this truth.

The quintessential Strong Man in the Bible is the judge known as Samson. Everyone knows his story. And in this case the Bible tells us that he was essentially the physically strongest man known in the entire Bible. He was so strong that he killed a lion with his bare hands (Judges 14:6)!

But we all know what his weakness was: it was a beautiful woman. And instead of Samson being the man of God that God had ordained him to be, the enemy exploited his weakness (Delilah—Judges 14:18) and was able to cut off his hair (his strength) and then bind the Strong Man!

David was one of the spiritually strongest men in the Bible; so much so that God made an everlasting covenant (2 Samuel 23:5) with him and David is considered one of the most important men in Bible history. But David had a weakness: it was beautiful women.

In fact, even though the Bible’s true doctrine allows for Strong Men to have multiple wives (and David did have many wives), he saw another man’s wife that was so beautiful (Bathsheba), that he actually broke God’s law and committed adultery with her. While God was chastising David for this sin, God went so far as to say that if David wanted more wives that God would have given them to him (2 Samuel 12:8)! But, because David took another man’s wife, it meant that he committed adultery and broke God’s law.

Who could be stronger than the very first man ever created by the hands of God Himself? Adam was the quintessential ruler, leader, and intellectual giant; so much so that he named every creature on the planet in one day! He Himself was made in God’s image, but the tragedy of the fallen world we live in today is because the great Strong Man Adam, transgressed God’s law when he got his role reversed because he listened to his wife. And could there have ever been a more beautiful woman than the very first woman that God created with his own hands?

But the point is simple: strong men have a common weakness and that weakness is beautiful women!

Now that is not to say that strong men have a tendency to be unfaithful. On the contrary, Strong Christian Men, by definition, have self control and are genuinely the most spiritually adept and God-fearing men, making them the most likely to maintain their virtue. In fact, David might be the only example of a Strong Man in the Bible who broke God’s law regarding marital relations. However, what is evident is that Strong Men have a weakness. While they are strong like Superman, they likewise have a kryptonite that can be exploited. And that weakness is the beautiful woman that they married.

That means that your Strong Christian Husband has a great big kryptonite-like weakness, and that weakness is you.

I am writing this because you are the only thing that can stop your husband from success, achievement, accomplishment, and the realization of his full potential as a man of God, the King of his House, and of claiming his destiny as one of the mighty men of his day, a man of renown.

You are not his equal. He married you for your beauty, not your brains, skills, or talents. Your husband doesn’t need you, he simply wants you. He loves you and he desires you, but make no mistake about it, he doesn’t actually need you.

Your husband is superior to you in every single way. He is more spiritual, more knowledgeable in God’s Word and His ways, he is more intelligent, he is more talented, he is emotionally stronger and more stable, and of course he is physically stronger. He knows more about law, history, finances, science, math, civics, economics, government, and nearly every other academic subject.

In fact, anything you do well, he could probably do better if he just applied himself to learning it, and he would probably learn it faster than you and surpass you in 1/10th the time it took you to get to your level.

GOOD NEWS—you have an awesome husband! You should treasure his skillset, his abilities, his acumen, his prowess, his intelligence, and his strength! But if you’re a feminist rebel, you will see your husbands skills and abilities as a competition, and you will operate from the premise that there is some battle or warfare between the sexes and that you have to try to fight your husband to prove your worth or to try to be better than him.

If you are better than him in any way other than at being feminine or being a woman, then your husband is not a Strong Man and this book is not for you.

Perhaps you have a higher "emotional intelligence" than your husband. Maybe you feel things more than he does. You might be better than him at feminine things or domestic duties like cooking, cleaning, organizing, designing, etc. But none of those things really matter to your husband. He can hire all of that done. And he can even hire professionals who are better than you.

But your husband wanted you and you should revel in that fact! Sure, he may have only wanted you initially because you are beautiful, but what’s wrong with that? A beautiful woman is a challenge or a quest for a strong man. He sees her, he wants her, and he sets out to get her. And he succeeded; he got you.

But you must recognize and remember that he didn’t marry you because of your skillset. He wasn’t thinking in practical terms of what a functional, useful, and spiritual woman you would be; or how much you would be a “helpmeet” for him. No. Strong Men don’t think like that. Strong Men are not always practical. Like I already stated, they rarely buy trucks. Again, I repeat, strong men buy sports cars, exotic cars, and luxury cars. You know, cars that are totally impractical, that are very expensive to maintain, and that don’t offer any real function or usefulness beyond “regular cars,” other than the fact that they look amazing.

That’s how strong men view women. And that, my dear sister, is how your husband viewed you when he set out to win you over as his bride.

Why is this? Well, by definition a strong man is a strong man! And for sake of emphasis, I repeat, he doesn’t need help. A woman was designed by God to be a man’s “helpmeet,” so therefore the stronger and more capable a man is, the less burden there is put on his wife to “help” him with the domestic duties that most women are accustomed to assuming.

A strong man really only needs a woman to “help” him do two things:
1. Satisfy him physically, sexually, and emotionally.
2. Raise his children.

If your husband needs help doing the finances, paying the bills, making decisions, being motivated, having ambition, overcoming trauma, being a leader, or anything similar; he is simply not a Strong Man and this book is not for you. Please stop reading because you could hurt yourself, your husband, or your relationship with your husband if you apply the principles of this book in a relationship where the man is not a “Strong Man.”

Okay, so now that we got that out of the way and now that we know what is great about you and why your husband desires you and wanted you to become his wife, now we have to talk about the potential and common negative side of being a beautiful woman in modern times…