Libby Doe

As women, we really only have two responsibilities: to love our husbands and to love our children (Titus 2:4). That’s it. All of our other duties come underneath those two.

But as a wife of a strong woman, you really only have two roles. You see, you are not a working woman. You will not be a bread winner. You will not run the finances or run a business. You will not have any role or duty outside of your husband and your children.

And those two roles come down to the following two things:
1. Being his Prize - You should be beautiful, sensual, and flirtatious.
2. Being the mother to his children - Your husband needs to trust you to raise his children according to God's Word.

So let's talk about these two roles really quickly:

1. BEING HIS BEAUTIFUL PRIZE

You know the expression "trophy wife" exists for a reason, right? A trophy is something you earn after you've won a contest or competition. The trophy is the souvenir for your achievement, or the prize for your victory or success. And that is what you are: you are his prize and his portion in this life (Ecclesiastes 9:9). So you need to make sure you exemplify what it means to be that prize.

You might think that you don't want to be a "trophy wife," but I can't think of a greater aspiration for a woman than to be the "trophy wife" to a godly Strong Christian Man! That means you are desirable and worthy of great efforts on his behalf. And it means that you are exceedingly valuable in his eyes.

Sure, to the outside world it might only mean that you are beautiful. But if you are going to maintain the status of a true, godly, trophy wife, your Strong Christian Man only needs 4 things from you:

1. Beauty - We've already discussed this so need to repeat it here. Just remember the importance of beauty as it is the entire reason your husband married you in the first place.

2. Sex - Give your husband great sex all the time. Period. Make your sex life so valuable that even if you are having a hard time overcoming some of the other ungodly habits of the past (that we've discussed at length in this book), that it is easy for your husband to have patience with you because the sex is so good and so plentiful! However, there is one thing I want to share with you right here, and that is to recognize the four times you should not try to seduce your husband:

• When he is physically exhausted.
• When he just finished eating a big meal.
• When he is dirty.
• When he is sick.

Remember, your husband is a conscientious man, and he is also a very busy man. I mention this because us women have a tendency towards self-sabotage and I find that many women only try to "get their sexy on" with their husbands during one of these 4 times. And that is a recipe for destruction. Those 4 times will make up less than 5% of his entire awake life. So just do all of your sexual advancing, and outright sexual assaulting, during the other 95% of his life.

Also, while I have not discussed this much in this book as infidelity isn't as big a problem for Strong Men as it is for "normal" men (even though the temptation might be more intense for Strong Men since so many more women are attracted to them regardless of whether they are "handsome" or not), the truth is that most Strong Men are strong enough to reject the temptation. No, not all of them, and no, not all of the time. But generally speaking, Strong Men are much less likely to be unfaithful to their wives than "normal" men.

But, in the end, there are really only two things that will keep a man absolutely faithful to his wife:

• Absolute genuine fear of God. While there are "moments of weakness" and exceptions to every rule, generally speaking, a conscientious man who fears God will stay away from sexual temptation.
• Satisfactory sex life at home. If you keep your husband full, he will not go out looking for anything else to eat. Likewise, if you keep your husband sexually satisfied, he will not be enticed by sexual opportunities elsewhere.

3. Respect - Everybody else in the world respects your husband. Even his enemies respect him. They might hate him, but they respect him because they recognize his skill, acumen, power, knowledge, and resourcefulness. How horrible would it be if the only person on the planet who didn't give your husband the respect he needs and deserves, was you? Unfortunately, that is the very reality that I see with many emotionally weak women married to Strong Men. They are basically the only ones in the lives of their husbands who give them or show them disrespect. This inevitably leads to resentment and other areas of stress and strain in the relationship. And make no mistake about it: contentiousness is the number one sign of disrespect.

4. Companionship - Believe it or not, your husband wants you at his side. He wants to be with you. He wants you to be with him. He just doesn't want there to be fighting, bickering, contention, complaining, and all of the other negative things that weak and emotional women bring into their relationships with their Strong Christian Men.

2. BEING THE MOTHER TO HIS CHILDREN

The real purpose of your marriage is not the bliss of either one of you, rather it is to have "godly offspring." (Malachi 2:15). God wants you to raise godly children. And there is no better way to do so than with a godly woman and a Strong Christian Man. If you are reading this book, then we know you have at least one half of the equation: you have a Strong Christian Man!

But you need to fill in the gap for the other half. You need to be that godly woman who properly guides the children and raises children to the glory of God and the honor of her husband (1 Timothy 5:14).